“Restart.”

H,

Every week we get to restart. We may get tired of the repetitive nature of worthy pursuits, of the crucible that is good work and of the loneliness rejection brings. This is normal. There is nothing wrong with going through a dark spot or having a bad feeling. We try to rush through this process too much. We have become less resilient because of this. We should let ourselves feel things, even unpleasant things.

There are two big mistakes we can make when our plans are scuttled: the first is to simply fold and move on to the next, easy thing. The second, and the more troubling, is to find some substitute for the feeling of success. We do this in many ways, but the main thread is avoidance of the weight of failure by the deceit of a sugar covered placebo. We do not try to restart, we replace. All the wonderful things we miss when we walk away too easily from the things that matter.

It is better to learn how to restart. To take falling down as part of the process and getting up as part of the same process. To learn that we will adapt, evolve, and adjust to the main purpose of our aims and not be so caught up in the minute details of getting what we want and when we want it. It is important to learn that every start will alter us and teach us and make us closer to our true selves. Every start will be have failure in it. Every start will be a success. Everything will add up in the end. Winning or losing are just all parts of being. Joy is to be found in both.