“You have yourself.”

 

H,

It is possible and now desirable that we get comfortable in our own skin. You only have yourself. As the poet said: all that you have is your soul. It is important that you spend some time tending to it. We cannot ignore the deep cuts and woolly nature of our hurts. There might not be an easy resolution, but at least let us admit that we are wounded.

 

If we are too easy on ourselves, if we let things slide and let forgiveness reign over our foibles, then we must remember to give this same levity to others. We must remember to give this same grace to others. This will tell us much about our own behaviour. There is nothing that can teach us more about our conduct than being on the receiving end of the same darn thing. When we have to forgive these high crimes from others, we will learn the high cost of our own insolence.

 

Yet, let us remember, again, that we are only captains of this ship we call a soul. Our choices are ours alone and their consequences must be seen in the light of this: we must take responsibility for our conduct. Grace allows us to realize this, to learn this in the light and to become the sort of people we would like to love.